Mayer, Richard

Raymond Mayer

October 20, 1966 - April 21, 2020

Raymond “Ray” George Mayer of McKinney, Texas passed away on April 21, 2020 at the age of 53.  He was born October 20, 1966 to George and Mary Elizabeth (Wittrock) Mayer in Haledon, New Jersey.  Ray grew up in Haledon where he graduated from Manchester Regional High School.  He acquired a Bachelor of Engineering with Honor degree from Stevens Institute of Technology, and also received a Master of Science degree from California Institute of Technology.  Ray worked for several companies in the Dallas-Fort Worth area as an Electrical Engineer.  Ray was a volunteer fire fighter for 30 years, starting in New Jersey and the majority of his time in Parker, Texas.  He married Amy Marie Kincaid on March 3, 2012 in Allen, Texas.  Ray was a long-time parishioner at St. Jude Catholic Church, and after moving to McKinney, St. Gabriel the Archangel.    Ray was a man of many talents.  He enjoyed flying small planes and was a Third Degree Black belt in Tae Kwon-Do.  In his spare time he enjoyed spending time with his family, playing his guitar, and golfing with his wife and friends. 

He is survived by his wife, Amy of McKinney, Texas; daughters, Kathryn Kincaid of Silverdale, Washington and Hope Bradley and husband, Tyler of Lakewood, Colorado; mother, Mary Elizabeth Mayer of New Jersey; brother, Kenneth Mayer of New Jersey and a host of other loving family and friends. 

Ray was preceded in death by his father, George.


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Our time here is short, but Ray's was way too short. Our condolences to his family and friends. Due to current circumstances, our annual gathering was around a virtual fire, where we remembered and toasted Ray several times. In our thoughts and hearts forever. God bless. Pat Hickey, May 18, 2020 To the Mayer family: Ray was my grammar school and high school classmate, and I'm so saddened by his passing. My deepest condolences to you. May our Lord keep you all within his loving embrace during this difficult time and give you the strength to get through this. May his memories keep him alive in your hearts. Rita Petry, April 30, 2020 Dear Amy and Family, it is still hard to believe that Raymond has left this earth. We were shocked and saddened by this news. Life is so fragile and unpredictable. You just never know when you say goodbye to someone, that might it could very well be your last words to them. Not sure how we starting calling each other this but we used to call each other GUTS and LUTS...guy up the street and lady up the street. Hey GUTS, one day we will meet again for a chat with a drink and a few plain potato chips. May Raymond rest in peace and watch over you and all your family and give you peace and guidance during the coming days, weeks and years. Cindy and Mark Stachiw, April 30, 2020 Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. I know that Ray will be misses by you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Ann Herman, April 29, 2020 Jan and I were shocked and saddened to hear about Ray‘s passing. Though we had lost touch of late, we used to exchange messages on Facebook from time to time. Ray was a thoughtful firefighter and a real friend. Kelley enjoyed his jokes about power supply design “it’s not rocket science, it’s much more important than that.” Our prayers to Amy and her extended family.
Jan & Kelley Stalder , April 29, 2020 Growing up having Raymond as a close family friend, I was floored and saddened to hear of his sudden passing. He was like part of the family growing up, practically an uncle to my sister and I. Graduations, birthdays, weekend get-togethers, he was there for almost all of them. He and my father ran and served on Parker city council together and many a weekday evening was spent listening to war stories about the goings on in the city. Raymond was a large part of my formative years as a teen and young adult, both as a friend and confidant, and I was thankful to have known him. His kindness, humor, and intellect will be sorely missed. “On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend's life also, in our own, to the world.” Henry David Thoreau
Chris Stachiw, April 29, 2020
Sweet Amy, I was so sorry of your loss of Ray. Thankfully, you had these blessed years with him. May God bring you peace.
Roberta Fischer, April 28, 2020 I was so shocked to know the news. I can't believe it. I was talking to him on 4/20 about his goals at work. I came to know him when he started working for Cree. He brought such broad and depth of knowledge with him, I was thrilled to have him in my team. He took any assignment with enthusiasm. Sometimes I worried if he would be overloaded. He always said to me, " load me up". He built good rapport with customers because he was always willing to take the extra mile to help them. He will be missed. It is a true loss to his family and this world. Jianwen Shao, April 27, 2020 As a respected colleague and acquaintance from our Bell Laboratories days, I will always remember Ray's passion for detailed circuit analysis, attention to details and commitment to quality. But mostly, Ray's soft spoken demeanor, kindness and understanding made him an excellent mentor to others. "Good men must die, but death cannot kill their names" - Author unknown. Rest In Peace, my friend. Alessandro Cervone, April 27, 2020 Deepest sympathies. He will be missed.
Rosemarie Chirico, April 27, 2020 Amy and family, I am so very sorry for your loss. Ray was a very kind man and a wonderful neighbor. I so enjoyed visiting with him out in our yards and to be witness to his generosity to others, his humble nature and his enthusiasm for the volunteer fire department in Parker. Please know that I am here for you and am praying for peace and comfort. Phyllis Houx, April 26, 2020 Ray was my friend of over 35 years. We went through many things together. He was a man of integrity, achievement, and loyalty. I will miss this man who was my friend and outstanding in all he did. The world will be a lesser place for his not being a part of it. Though Ray was an outstanding engineer, his warmth and generosity are the things I will remember most about him. To paraphrase a famous poem by called For the Fallen by Laurence Binyon: He shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary him, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning We will remember him. Steve and Susan Marrano, April 26, 2020 I was stunned to hear about Ray's passing. Bill and I wanted to pass along our sincere condolences to you, Amy, and to all your family and friends at this sad time. Many prayers being said for the repose of his soul and for peace and comfort to you all. We are so incredibly sorry for your loss! God bless, Ellen and Bill Rock Ellen Rock, April 26, 2020 I’m so very sad to hear of Ray’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. Irene Graham, April 25, 2020 My heart goes out to that family. I've known Ray for a little over 20 years from Lucent Power Systems and Coldwatt. I was known as Ray#2 at Coldwatt. He was a very good friend and a man of many talents. It was a priviledge being Ray's friend. You will be missed my friend. Ray Cote, April 25, 2020 Appreciate the years of after work taekwondo and camaraderie. You are in my thoughts. Bro RIP. Roy Davis , April 25, 2020 I am so saddened to hear of Ray’s passing. A childhood friend sine early grammar school, Raymond was always kind, sincere, and oh so intelligent. I remember feeling intimidated by his intelligence early on, but only because of my insecurities; Raymond never boasted about his superior brain, and his smile was always so infectious. In later years, I was not surprised by his success, and when I learned through his Facebook posts about his love of nature, his devotion to God, and his selfless volunteering as a fireman, it felt right to know how well-rounded Raymond Mayor had become. The world is blessed by the footprint Ray left, but it is also a bit more clouded now that that trail of his boots on the ground have come to a stop. I only hope his wife, children, and mother can put forward a happy step knowing his new wings are now guiding them instead of his feet. I am so sorry for their tremendous loss; they are in my thoughts and in my prayers. Xo Julie Pellegrino Grider, April 25, 2020 The Trotter family extends our deepest condolences. Ray was a wonderful man, and a good friend. We will miss him. Our prayers are with Ray's soul and his family at this difficult time. Daniel Trotter and family, April 25, 2020 I'm so sorry about Ray's passing. He was always so kind and brilliant. Keeping you all in my prayers and may the sweet memories of Ray comfort you during this time. RIP old friend xxx
Naji Thapsem, April 25, 2020 My sincere condolences. Ray was a wonderful person always willing to help. When in high school he helped me study for the NLN. He is one of the main reasons I passed the exam and entered into Nursing school. I will never forget his patience and kindness. Heaven has gained one of the best. Rest and peace my friend. Anna Valenti Miccio, April 25, 2020 I worked with Ray from 2006 through 2010 as his colleague at Coldwatt and Flextronics. He was an excellent engineer. I’ve been working with him as a supplier over the past 6 months. Ray made the world a better place. My heartfelt condolences to his family. Sriram Sriram Chandrasekaran , April 25, 2020 So sad to hear the news of Ray's passing. My thoughts are with his family at this difficult time. Simon Brown, April 25, 2020 Our condolences go out to the family. Big Ray, you'll always be remembered by your Haledon friends! Jayne Engold Valero, April 25, 2020 So very, very sorry for your loss. In the short time I knew him I was impressed by his friendliness. God bless you all. Jan Crawford, April 25, 2020 I’m heart broken to hear that Ray passed. Please know that you all are in our thoughts and prayers.
Julie Dowling Paulison, April 25, 2020