De Quan Lac, age 60, of Allen, Texas, passed away March 7, 2015, in Dallas, Texas. De was born December 31, 1954, in Saigon, Vietman, to Xuan Vinh Lac and Dung Tuy Quan. She was the number three daughter of the twelve children, and the owner of Little Hunan Chinese Restaurant in Ashland, Virginia.
De had always been an astute, diligent, daring and self-motivated individual. Once finished her junior high school, De started helping out in father’s manufactories. With her ingenuity, she could pick up any mechanical and business skills to produced profitable and creative outcomes through adventurous trials. Father had always considered her as the first boy in the family, even though she was the third girl.
The family’s business improved when our first brother was born, then two more brothers before me, then the rest of the twelve. De then became father’s assistant-supervisor for his plastic factory and the book-keeper of his peanut oil factory. Those poignancy of teen-labored year did not quelled her desire for knowledge, she took different classes every evening after work to fulfill her thirst. The day of my first words, De had already tried to teach me how to do Chinese calligraphy with a fur-pen dipped with black ink, then follow with calculation on an Abacus and how to learn Chinese from ‘KangXi’ dictionary.
De was an ordinary sister yet she glamorize our characters with her integrity, humility, fidelity, and temperance;the values she had learnt from her business. She (with other sisters and brother) also rekindled our lives by being a brave soldier in the cultural skirmish between Vietnam and America, by providing the family with food and shelter; so that we were able to focus on our education and be independent and successful. Because of that, we are forever grateful to her.
De’s valid maxims are “Do no harm; Never give up, nor give in; change yourself before changing the world; one step at a time with discreet.” De had done lots of charity for the sickness and poor, as well as helping her friends.
She is survived by her mother, Dung Tuy Quan of Richmond, Virginia; siblings, Hung My Lac of Richmond, Nancy Lac and husband, Ming Wai Kong of Allen, Texas, Tony Lac and wife, Fanny of Plano, Texas, Jacky Lac and wife Diana Le, Josephina Lac, Maggie Lac-Thai and husband, Minh Thai, all of Richmond, David Lac and wife, Samantha Nguyen of Plano, Texas, Stephanie Chin and husband, Ming Chin of Mechanicsville, Virginia, and Paul Lac and wife, May Chongson Kim of Allen, Texas.
She was preceded in death by her father, Xuan Vinh Lac.
The family received friends during a visitation beginning at 9:00 a.m., Saturday, March 14, 2015, at Turrentine-Jackson-Morrow Funeral Home in Allen, Texas.
The journey to West---De Q. Lac
(By Josephina Lac)
De, as a fiduciaries, I would like you to know, your illness is very unfortunate, and has been many heart twinges for us, when we think of you. Yet it is a wake-up call, and very significant --- it unites us, from a busy, isolated working-maniac state back to a ‘tender-loving-care’ family. I will do whatever you asked of me, and entrench our family to be more robust and tenacious. I will not let work and money engulf me and all my time, and will reunite with the whole family at least once a year? I know all brothers and sisters acquiesce to that idea and will love and take good care of mother and of each other.
De, I want you to know, everyone has done so much, beyond your knowledge, to help out on your illness and making you comfortable, including Fanny, Diana, Sam, May, Wei, Minh, Ming,nieces and nephews, especially mother. I have never been so proud of my family, everyone was so willing to share his or her time and resource for you and for each other. I believe this virtue will continue to pass down our future generations.
I sincerely thank you for all these years you have been contributed to our family for spiritual and financial supports; you sacrificed your chance of enjoying yourself and freedom by working so hard to improve our quality of life. I salute your liberal and noble character with much gratitude and I felt ashamed that I could not repay your kindness, unless Buddha is willing and allowing me to.
- Maybe one day I will seek asylum from you, so go “West” in peace. My dearest sister.
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